Lisa, thanks for the insightful article. I think you have identified something that seems innocent ("cougar") and actually represents both sexism and ageism, in my view. It's kind of sad that we need to consider the older woman/younger man scenario as unusual if not "questionable." Instead, people should be focused on what is needed between two adults to have a happy, committed relationship, regardless of the age difference and whether it's the man or woman who is younger/older.